Do Pregnant women belong in a club?

[Tamara-B]

This past Saturday my friend Brittney and I pigged out at Hbachi, a lovely Chinese buffet. After stuffing my face with ribs, orange chicken, and baby octopus I planned to head home & fall asleep watching Law & Order. 

However, Brittney managed to talk me into going down to the beach for some nightlife fun with some friends of hers. I reluctantly tagged along. Surprisingly I was having a good time. After walking the beach laughing and checking out a few places, we settled into a restaurant/nightclub and danced away. I looked around and observed a few navy men dancing, a soon-to-be bride celebrating her engagement with her girlfriends, and a very pregnant girl in the middle of the dance floor slowly bobbing her head. 

She looked confused as if she'd gotten lost on her way to lamaze class. 

The hilarious 2007 movie, Knocked Up, immediately came to mind. The scene where Katherine Heigl's character and her sister are denied entrance into a club by the bouncer because the sister is old and Heigl is pregnant. 

I've never pictured a pregnant woman and nightlife a compatible pair.

First off, sometimes people get stupid in bars/clubs. Fights break out and if it's crowded people knock into one another. Hardly a peaceful environment for a Mom-to-be. 

Almost everyone has a stereotype, including pregnant gals. Society paints club-hopping pregnant women as ladies who want to have all the fun they can before diaper duty, sleepless nights, and burping. 

Or...another view is the "I still got it" attitude, meaning you can still be the sexy, fun party girl with or without a bun in the oven. 

I have mixed views on the subject. A part of me feels they should keep their pregnant behinds at home and another feels that they should be allowed to have fun like everyone else. 

What do you think? 

[BridgeTroll]

I think... Why would anybody care?  Seems kind of gossipy and finger pointy to me... 

[mtraininjax]

First off, sometimes people get stupid in bars/clubs. Fights break out and if it's crowded people knock into one another. Hardly a peaceful environment for a Mom-to-be.

No way.....Personally, I like the drunk fights by the 'necks on the beach after they are fighting over a girl.

Life is about choices, so if the mom-to-be wants to be out and subjected to all that goes on in a bar, go for it, but thankfully we live in the USA and she can do as she pleases.

[Tamara-B]

I think... Why would anybody care?  Seems kind of gossipy and finger pointy to me... 

Lol, okay.

[Dog Walker]

Nothing wrong with dancing and having fun, but Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is no joke.

[riverside planner]

If a pregnant woman has the energy to go out and dance, then more power to her.  I for one was sound asleep by 10 pm almost every night when I was pregnant since being knocked up was incredibly exhausting!

[finehoe]

Nothing wrong with dancing and having fun, but Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is no joke.

She doesn't have to drink to be there.  But she has no choice about breathing in the second-hand smoke.  That would give me pause if I was in her shoes.

[Adam W]

I have no issue with pregnant women in a club.

I do, however, take exception to people bringing their kids to a bar.

[Tamara-B]

I have no issue with pregnant women in a club.

I do, however, take exception to people bringing their kids to a bar.

I'm sorry, what? There are people who bring their children to bars?

[Tamara-B]

Nothing wrong with dancing and having fun, but Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is no joke.

She doesn't have to drink to be there.  But she has no choice about breathing in the second-hand smoke.  That would give me pause if I was in her shoes.

I thought smoking wasn't allowed in nightclubs

[RockStar]

Look, if she's drinking for two, she better be tipping for two.

[Debbie Thompson]

Tamara, I had to laugh. Couldn't help myself.  What year is it?  Did I take a nap and wake up in Victorian England? Is it 1882 or 2012?  Did we women of the 1960's burn our bras for nothing?   :-)

"Back in the Victorian era a proper young lady had to learn the rules of etiquette everything from how to walk down the street to how to eat fruit ever so elegantly (first peeling it with a silver knife and cutting it in bite-size morsels).

Should a lady find herself to be pregnant, it is much preferred that she keep it hidden. The lady’s family may refer to her as being ‘in a delicate condition’ or ‘in the family way’.  The lady of ‘delicate condition’, if she wishes, should invest in a maternity corset in which to assist in hiding her belly. When it can no longer be hidden, she may stay at home."

[Tamara-B]

Tamara, I had to laugh. Couldn't help myself.  What year is it?  Did I take a nap and wake up in Victorian England? Is it 1882 or 2012?  Did we women of the 1960's burn our bras for nothing?   :-)

"Back in the Victorian era a proper young lady had to learn the rules of etiquette everything from how to walk down the street to how to eat fruit ever so elegantly (first peeling it with a silver knife and cutting it in bite-size morsels).

Should a lady find herself to be pregnant, it is much preferred that she keep it hidden. The lady’s family may refer to her as being ‘in a delicate condition’ or ‘in the family way’.  The lady of ‘delicate condition’, if she wishes, should invest in a maternity corset in which to assist in hiding her belly. When it can no longer be hidden, she may stay at home."

I'm happy I can make you laugh, my dear. It is indeed the year 2012, you're right. I said A PART of me feels carrying a child and being at the club isn't necessary and ANOTHER PART feels like everyone deserves to have fun. My view is the health of an unborn child. Sometimes the crazy things that happpen during nightlife can't be peaceful on a pregnancy. My post has nothing to do with a prudish, conservative point of view because I'm far from that.

As I said in my post, when I saw a pregnant lady in the club I thought of a funny movie scene. I didn't approach the girl wagging my finger, telling her she needs to be home knitting. Lol so trust me, I'm far from some tight ass.

However, I appreciate your opinion.

[mtraininjax]

I thought smoking wasn't allowed in nightclubs

You have not been to Monty's, obviously!

[Debbie Thompson]

I didn't think you were, Tamara.  Like I said, I was laughing.  But I also had a vision.  Mine wasn't in a movie though. Mine was real.  When I graduated, options for women were pretty limited.  Clerical, nurse, teacher, teller were pretty much it for most women.  As late as the 1980s a bank officer told me he wanted my husband to co-sign for a $2500 car I was buying, even though I was well qualifed for it myself.  (I refused.)  And note, there were no female bank officers to discuss it with.  :-)

We have come pretty far since then, so the picture of anyone thinking a pregnant woman didn't belong in certain places made me laugh, although it also made me sad.  Like that movie scene you referred to. I saw it too. And I thought, "Why should they be refused entrance to a club because one is old and the other pregnant?"

But mostly I laughed, because at least we aren't stuck in Victorian England, where ladies had to stay INDOORS when pregnant, couldn't work unless it was as a servant, and could not leave abusive husbands because their husbands owned all their assets. 

So in that sense, I found it funny.  Because we have come a long way, baby.